Dating Rights

Just like driving a car, going to school or playing a sport, dating someone comes with both rights and responsibilities. Print these out and post them as a reminder for yourself and others. But first, look at them carefully and ask yourself if you are violating someone else's rights - or if someone is violating yours. Are you fulfilling your responsibilities? Are you respecting your rights and the rights of your date?

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Rights
I have the right:

1. However, each state has its own laws that define the age of consent, or the time when a person is old enough 'to willingly engage in a sexual act.' Be aware of the legal age of consent in your state. All states set the age of consent from 14 to 18; in more than half of the states, the age is 16.
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3. The 'existence of a substantive dating relationship is an element of a c. 209A claim and not a prerequisite for subject matter jurisdiction.' Sylvester S., 97 Mass. 184 (2020) Where 'the plaintiff seeks protection from the effects of past sexual abuse, she need not allege a fear of imminent future sexual abuse.'

1. To be treated with respect always
2. To my own body, thoughts, opinions, and property
3. To choose and keep my friends
4. To change my mind - at any time
5. To not be abused - physically, emotionally or sexually
6. To leave a relationship
7. To say no
8. To be treated as an equal
9. To disagree
10. To live without fear and confusion from my boyfriend's or girlfriend's anger
    

Responsibilities
I have the responsibility:

1. To not threaten to harm myself or another
2. To encourage my girlfriend or boyfriend to pursue their dreams
3. To support my girlfriend or boyfriend emotionally
4. To communicate, not manipulate
5. To not humiliate or demean my girlfriend or boyfriend
6. To refuse to abuse - physically, emotionally or sexually
7. To take care of myself
8. To allow my boyfriend or girlfriend to maintain their individuality
9. To respect myself and my girlfriend or boyfriend
10. To be honest with each other

I’d talked to mom about giving me her keys because driving didn’t seem safe anymore. The conversation didn’t go well. She’s stubborn, and I hate upsetting her.

Can You Legally Drive with Alzheimer’s or Dementia?

This question immediately comes to the minds of family members, but the questions raised are broader than simply, “does my state have a law against driving with dementia / Alzheimer’s?”. As relevant are the following questions:

-Do I need to report someone with dementia to the department of motor vehicles (DMV)? If so, how soon?
-Will our doctor report the individual to our state DMV?
-Do I need to notify my car insurance that a driver in my house has dementia?
-Will our insurance provider refuse to cover us or raise our rates?

Laws and rules about driving with a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s (or other form of dementia) vary by state and are often unclear. For example, in California doctors are required to notify the Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV) if a person has been diagnosed with dementia, and the DMV then issues a “request for driver reexamination,”. This is a driving test that can result in driving restrictions during certain times of day, or even the full loss of driving privileges. How quickly the reporting and re-examination happen is very vague, as is enforcement. Another example is Texas, where there are no laws about reporting a diagnosis to driving authorities, but anyone can report a potentially unsafe driver to the state DMV. Accordingly, a doctor, a neighbor or even a family member may choose to do so. Then the driver will have to pass a doctor’s evaluation to stay behind the wheel.

Regardless of the legality, in order to protect your loved one with dementia, your family and other drivers, it is recommended to take the following steps related to driving when a loved one receives a dementia diagnosis.

1. Contact your car insurance provider and notify them of the diagnosis. Each insurance provider has different rules on how they handle the situation. It is very unlikely they will raise your premiums. The more likely scenario is they will refuse to cover the driver who has received the diagnosis. While this may be dramatic, if one does not notify their insurance and an accident occurs, the insurance company may refuse to pay for the claim.

2. Assess your loved one driving abilities (more on how to do this below). Even if their driving skills have not diminished, have a preliminary conversation with them mentioning the day will come when they will have to give up driving. Having had this preliminary conversation will make it easier to take away the keys when the time comes.

3. Be prepared yourself and prepare your loved one with the knowledge that the Department of Motors Vehicles will eventually require them to re-take a driving test or re-evaluate their ability to drive in some manner. How quickly this happens varies based on several factors but knowing that day will come will make it easier when it does. Factors that impact how soon this occurs include how soon their driver’s license expires. When renewing a license, all states require that drivers mention any medical conditions that could impact their driving ability. Another factor is whether someone (perhaps your doctor) or other family member has notified the DMV of their condition. Doctors in California are required to do so by law. Neighbors will often report persons they believe are unsafe behind the wheel and even adult children who disagree about their parent’s ability to drive may notify the DMV.

State by State Laws on Driving with Dementia

Below is a chart with the relevant laws by state. The vagueness of many states’ laws should not discourage you from seeking DMVs’ help if your loved one refuses to stop driving. You are the first line of defense to keep a dangerous driver off the road, but in almost every state there’s a process to force a person to be reevaluated before they can continue driving. Who can file the report differs depending on the state. In some states, like Ohio, only a doctor can request a reexamination.

It may be difficult or considered passive-aggressive to take this action against someone you love, but the consequences of doing nothing can be devastating. Again, cars are complicated two-ton machines that should only be operated by someone who can react quickly in a changing environment.

Why Driving with Alzheimer’s / Dementia is Dangerous?

Someone with Alzheimer’s or a related dementia can probably continue driving in the early stages of the disease. Over time, however, driving becomes dangerous for absolutely everyone with the disease, and they usually need to stop within three years of their diagnosis. It is hard for someone to admit they shouldn’t be behind the wheel. Losing the ability to drive represents a loss of independence and control. It might feel unfair. Yet while respecting dignity and independence is important, nothing trumps safety.

Driving is a complex task. Think of the multitasking required to do these all at once:
– Recognize traffic signs and signals.
– Pay attention to other cars.
– React to other cars.
– Maintain correct distances on every side.
– Adapt to changing road or weather conditions.
– Handle the vehicle, which weighs (on average) about two tons and features countless moving parts.

Dementia most famously impacts memory, but focus is also a casualty, and focus is probably the most important part of driving. Someone whose mind can’t react quickly, whose reaction time is slower, should not be driving.

Warning Signs Your Loved One Should Not Be Driving

Getting angry on the road is typical for many drivers, but if your loved one is becoming especially frustrated or confused while driving, this is a good indicator that it’s time to take the keys away. Other signs to look out for:

– Missing or disregarding traffic signs and signals.
– Veering outside the lane.
– Decreased use of appropriate driving etiquette.
– Forgets the destination or gets lost on familiar roads.
– Increasing dependence on navigation aids in their home area.
– Difficulty determining the brake pedal from the gas pedal.
– New dings, dents, or scratches in the paint of the car.

People in the middle to late stages of dementia should not be driving, because the danger to themselves and others is too great. It’s too easy to, for instance, lose focus and run a red light. The sad fact is that everyone with dementia will have to stop driving at some point, probably within three years, and it’s up to the people around them (including you) to determine when that point is. Consulting with the doctor or having the local Department of Motor Vehicles administer a driving test are ways to get a concrete answer, rather than leaving it up to your own feel.

The tougher decision is in the early stages of the disease. As symptoms first become apparent, it may be perfectly fine for your loved one to drive, especially during the day. If your loved one wants to keep driving and hasn’t given you a reason to worry, then these are the best tips:
– Ride with them, to observe how well they operate the car and respond to surroundings.
– Limit the time of day they’re allowed to drive. It’s harder to drive at night than during the day.
– Limit where they can go. Driving around the neighborhood may be OK, but getting on the freeway is probably a bad idea.

Having the Conversation About Not Driving with Dementia

This can be difficult, especially if the person with dementia has been a figure of authority, like your mother or father. Losing the ability to drive can be emotional, so be prepared with hard, non-emotional evidence to make your case. Treat your preparation (though not the talk itself) like you’re getting ready for trial: accumulate evidence to make a strong case.

– Who is the best person to deliver the hard news? Is it a spouse, best friend, adult child or doctor? Or should one recruit a group of loved ones to talk, more like an intervention.
– If dementia is diagnosed early, and your loved one can still make informed decisions, talk together about when, and how, to transition away from driving. What milestones, or behaviors, would mean it’s time to quit? This will have to be dealt with eventually, and the sooner the better.
– Have a doctor write a note for you ahead of time, backing your case that it’s time to end driving privileges.
– Use the DMV. A compromise with your loved one may be to get a new driving test at the DMV, to let the authorities decide whether it’s OK to stay behind the wheel.
– Know your state’s laws and your insurance company’s policy.
– Present your evidence as sweetly as you can. Demonstrate understanding and empathy, stressing the positives as you offer unconditional love and support. Be ready to have this conversation more than once, and do not lose patience with having to repeat yourself. Someone with memory problems will probably need to be told repeatedly that a major life change has occurred.
– Have alternative transportation options already determined for any locations the individual drives with regularity. The most common objective to not driving is “but how will I get to ____.” Presenting solutions concurrent with the conversation is key to heading off these objections.
– Focus on safety, not just your loved one’s but other people’s safety on the road, including children.
– Be specific with observations you’ve made, like mistakes the person made while driving.
– Remember to stress that it’s the disease, not the individual.

Transportation Options for Persons with Alzheimer’s / Dementia

Paratransit Services
These are a type of shared-ride public transportation for elderly and disabled people. Depending where you live, paratransit may offer a fixed route with specified stops, like a bus, or door-to-door service. (Rides for door-to-door service must be booked in advance.) These services usually cost about as much as the bus, and are better for someone in the early to early-mid stages of dementia. To find transit services in your state, visit The American Public Transportation Association.

Private Transportation
This option is also good for someone in the early and middle stages of dementia, as someone who exhibits late-stage behaviors like aggressiveness and wandering would have trouble with these services. Private transportation options include taxis, Uber, Lyft, and Gogograndparent. Uber and Lyft are location-based apps that send a private driver to an individual’s location. They require a smartphone, however, while Gogograndparent is for people without smartphones to still use Uber and Lyft by dialing a traditional phone number or by allowing a loved one to arrange their transportation. Also notable is recent news that Medicaid recipients in six states (Arizona, Missouri, Tennessee, Michigan, Georgia, and Virginia) are covered for Lyft rides. (For more on Medicaid coverage for transportation, see below.)

Friends & Family
After a diagnosis of dementia, friends and family often want to help but don’t know how. Rides may be the answer. Your loved one will need to get to doctor’s appointments, run errands, and get outside for exercise or social activities. Friends and family can help with rides throughout all stages of the disease, providing supervision you can trust and assistance from door to door.

Volunteer Driver Programs
Volunteer driver programs help transport seniors, disabled people, and individuals with middle- to late-stage dementia. In most cases, transportation is modified to meet your loved one’s needs, like carrying healthcare equipment and making multiple stops. Drivers may even be trained on dealing with dementia. These programs can be free, or might ask for a suggested donation between $5 and $10 per ride. Contact your local Area Agency on Aging office to ask about volunteer driving programs, or find one through the National Center for Mobility Management website.

Medicaid Programs
Among the many assistance programs for low-income seniors (including those with dementia) available under Medicaid are transportation services. These programs, however, are not consistent from state to state, or even within states. Generally, transportation assistance is offered via Home and Community Based Services (HCBS) Medicaid Waivers. Contact the Medicaid office in your state to see if your loved one qualifies.

Adult Day Care / Alzheimer’s Day Treatment
Many adult day care programs provide transportation assistance to and from the centers. Some of these are included in the cost and others add a nominal fee for transport.

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Memory Care / Assisted Living
If driving is impossible and other transportation options are impractical, one might consider removing the need for transportation by relocating to an assisted living / memory care home. Free assistance is available to help families find residences in their area and within their budgets.